{"id":1155,"date":"2019-09-30T17:32:02","date_gmt":"2019-09-30T17:32:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.jack-donovan.com\/sowilo\/?p=1155"},"modified":"2019-09-30T17:49:39","modified_gmt":"2019-09-30T17:49:39","slug":"on-friendship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jack-donovan.com\/sowilo\/2019\/09\/30\/on-friendship\/","title":{"rendered":"On Friendship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Elliot Hulse wrote something the other day<\/a> about not showing your weakness \u2014 every questioning feeling, thought, insecurity or fear \u2014 to a woman. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019s right, and I\u2019d like to add that this extends to friendship. A man isn\u2019t really your friend until he knows you and knows your life and what makes you tick. He\u2019s probably truly a friend if he\u2019s seen you stumble a little, and stuck around to help you up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If a friend thou hast | whom thou fully wilt trust,
And good from him wouldst get,
Thy thoughts with his mingle, | and gifts shalt thou make,
And fare to find him oft. <\/p> \u2014 H\u00e1vam\u00e1l 44<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are not every thought that you have. YOU are the EGO that filters your thoughts and decides which thoughts matter. Anyone who knows me knows I\u2019m pretty much an open book, but there are limits to how much sharing is productive. No man needs to get your brain\u2019s unfiltered livestream. It can ruin a friendship, and as someone once told me rightly when I was making that mistake, if you give every thought a voice, it can ruin you and another man\u2019s opinion of you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men can\u2019t afford to be careless, and in the past, they were more guarded. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s tactically smarter, and it\u2019s philosophically, psychologically and spiritually better for them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Boomer feminists have been bitterly attacking the \u201cJohn Wayne\u201d ideals of their \u201cemotionally distant\u201d dads who fought in WWII since the late 1960s. They lure men in with a \u201cget out of manhood free\u201d card. The one thing they have to offer is something only the worst men want \u2014 the freedom to be weak. To luxuriate in weakness and confusion and emotional chaos. But we are men, and men create order, light \u2014 cosmos<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nietzsche had a quote about friendship that is worth considering here. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thou wouldst wear no raiment before thy friend? It is in honour of thy friend that thou showest thyself to him as thou art? But he wisheth thee to the devil on that account! He who maketh no secret of himself shocketh: so much reason have ye to fear nakedness! Aye, if ye were Gods, ye could then be ashamed of clothing! Thou canst not adorn thyself fine enough for thy friend; for thou shalt be unto him an arrow and a longing for the Superman.<\/p>\u2014 Nietzsche, Thus Spake Zarathustra<\/a><\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Misery loves company, but no one looks up to misery. Misery is something to look down at. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2295 STAY SOLAR \u2295<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2063\u2063<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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