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A reader asked a me a good question the other day. Certain types of creative people draw from their personal struggles to create, and the realness in their work comes from a bare and palpable honesty about pain and weakness and heartache. There would probably only be 5-10 decent country songs if some guys hadn\u2019t cried tears into their beers and then written songs about it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I have always written in the first person \u2014 I have no idea how to write fiction \u2014 so everything I write is at least partially autobiographical. I occasionally make truthful observations and give decent advice because I\u2019d lived some life and wrestled with some problems myself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The question was, \u201chow do you balance stoicism with creativity?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First of all, I don\u2019t strictly consider myself a stoic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I was hanging around a lot of self-described misanthropes, many seemed to be playing a game of inverse virtue signaling \u2014 \u201cwhoever hates humanity the most, wins.\u201d It was hollow and forced and \u201ctoo cool for school.\u201d This goth pantomime didn\u2019t communicate superiority, it revealed a lot of disillusioned idealists and souls with festering wounds. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I get the same sense from self-proclaimed stoics – if not necessarily from their foundational texts. There seems to be a running contest to see who can appear to be the least \u201caffected.\u201d It strikes me sometimes as being a little fake, inhuman, and lacking balance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
So rather than stoicism proper, we\u2019re talking about something more like emotional restraint, dignity, and the pragmatic filtering of thoughts and words to produce the best \u2014 not merely the most immediate \u2014 outcome. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Perhaps the answer about creating with your pain has to do with the timeline. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Early social media encouraged a real-time purging of every black mood and angry moment. This kind of catharsis was usually a net-negative, both for the person doing the purging and for everyone reading it. It was also addicting to broadcast every sad or angry thought or feeling. A lot of people still do it. It always looks like a desperate cry for attention and no one respects someone for doing this \u2014 though if they are attractive, many will offer a shoulder to cry on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Instead of putting it out there in real time, process your pain and talk about it after you\u2019ve overcome it. We often don\u2019t understand what we are going through very well until after we\u2019ve been through it anyway. When it\u2019s all in the rearview mirror, you can present your suffering with insight instead of emotional panic. Or, maybe the real insight will be that you realize that you were just being a complete fucking idiot, and that no one needs to know about that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
As I mentioned in one of the comments to that post about friendship\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n